Tonight I filled out the application to the adoption agency that we have chosen to work with. It took a bit longer to get this step completed, than what we anticipated because we hit a few snags this week that we needed to work out. But now that those hills are climbed, we can mail out the application tomorrow. We will know within two weeks if we are accepted into the agencies program. I am so ready to get this show on the road, and I am so excited to work with the agency that we have decided on. So far my dealings with this agency have been amazing. They are so helpful, and nice. I really feel good about our decisions so far.
We also had our follow up visit for our FET this week. I have to say that our doctor is such a kind and wonderful man. He heard that we were thinking of adopting, before we went in to see him, and figured that our fertility treatment journey was finished. He was surprised to hear that we still plan on pursuing fertility treatments. But either way, he has offered to help in any way that he can. We talked about why we think IVF hasn't worked for us yet. We came up with a list of tests that we can run to see if we can get some more answers. And we came up with a plan of what to try next. So we will get the tests done as soon as we get confirmation that the insurance company will cover them, and then we are planning on doing a freeze all IVF in October or November. We will freeze our embryos in batches of about 4, and on day 1. So they will have a decent chance of surviving the thaw, since at later stages, our embryos just don't look like that will survive. Then after we are home with our baby through adoption, we will decide when we are ready to start trying FETs. We decided on this for a few reasons. First, my eggs aren't getting any younger, so we may as well get them while they are there, and save them for later. Second, an FET is so much easier on the body, so when I am at home with a baby, it will be easier for me to do and FET than it would be a fresh cycle. Also we will have our 4 that we already have frozen as a back up, if we ever do thaw a batch of 4 and none survive. We can then convert to a day 5 transfer instead of a day 3, and not waste all of the prep that we did for that transfer. Since they are already day 5 embryos, they don't have to sit in culture for days, so they can be thawed after we have realized the first batch didn't make it. We also figure that by freezing our embryos in the fall, we can still work to figure out why this isn't working, and if it turns out that we need to get a surrogate or donor eggs, or what ever other hoop we have to jump through, we can still have embryos frozen to use at a later date. I figure we can always do another IVF if we need to at a later date. We can always get donor eggs if we need them...but my eggs may not be there a year or two from now. I should get them while they are there, and we can figure out what to do with them later. Now the trick between now and then....finding a way to pay for it all.
If things stop breaking on the house...we will be able to have some money for both the adoption and the IVF. In the last year we have had a new roof, new siding on the side of the house, new vents on the side of the house, a new mailbox, a new window, when the contractors fixed the lights in our family room, they stepped through the floor in the attic and had to repaint the ceiling. We also had to replace the washer and dryer, the garbage disposal, and now we have a new dishwasher coming tomorrow. My husband's car has also broken down about 6 times in the last year. And the garage door opener hasn't worked right in months, we just haven't called someone to fix it yet. Oh and DirecTv has been at our house about 5 times in the last year. We also had to replace a pipe on our sprinkler system, and had a pretty big repair bill for our air conditioner. So really we hopefully should have at least a few months where nothing breaks, and we can save a little money for the IVF in the fall. I keep saying that since we have replaced so much, nothing else should break, but it still doesn't stop!!! Maybe now, we can have a few months free. On a good note, with everything that we have done outside to the house, it is looking awesome! We hired a new lawn service this year, and they offered to grind up our stumps that we have in the back yard. Our cost for it is a fair trade. We are giving him the old lawn mower that broke last year, and he will grind up the stumps. He fixes mowers, so it works out great for us and him. He also offered to trim our landscaping, for a reasonable price. So with all of the work he has done and the work that hubby put into the backyard and garden this year, it really looks amazing!
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